The first step in wooing a TwitterQueen (TQ) is to start with your own heart. There are several aspects.
First: This may sound trite, but you must love yourself. Not in a conceited way, but in a confident way. (Nothing turns a TwitterQueen off more than an ego-maniacal jackass.) On the other hand, when you are secure in yourself, you then have the ability to be and do good for others, and that is powerfully attractive to a TQ.
Two: You must have room in your heart, and in your life, for your TwitterQueen. If you have not yet found your TwitterQueen, there are things you can do to channel the cosmic powers of the universe in your favor. If the universe senses that you are content being on your own, and that you will not treat your TQ like the royalty she deserves, the universe will not allow a TQ to enter into your life. You will not see hide nor hair of one until you are ready to accept her into your life and treat her properly.
To make room in your life to find and attract your TQ, leave the spaces that you will share open for her. Here are a few specifics: Keep your bathroom supplies in half of the medicine cabinet. Women need space to keep *their* toiletries, so make sure you aren’t crowding her out of your bathroom closet space. Also, make sure you are leaving her space for her clothes in your bedroom closet.
Do you have a queen-size bed? Have you become accustomed to hogging it and sleeping diagonally across it? If so, you are sending the wrong signal to the universe. The universe will assume you have no room in your life for your TQ, and will not offer her up to you.
And last, to show the universe that you have room in your heart and physical life for your TQ, be sure to LEAVE THE TOILET SEAT DOWN after you use it. Yes, it’s a pain in the buttocks to always be picking the darn thing up and down, even when a woman isn’t around to be appreciating how thoughtful and chivalrous you are, but trust me, the universe WILL NOT offer up a TQ into your life unless you are religiously observing this ritual. And when she DOES come into your life, you will thank your lucky stars that leaving the toilet seat down is as second-nature to you as breathing.
The third, and perhaps most important aspect of starting with your heart is to always speak your heart to your TQ. TwitterQueens don’t like playing games. TwitterQueens deserve and appreciate knowing where they stand with you. Contrary to popular literature on the subject, TQs will not stand for being “played.” If they sense you are running some sort of program, they will be gone for good. TQ’s appreciate honest, emotionally-available men. It doesn’t mean you should be a wimp or that you have to act uber-macho all the time, but it does mean that you need to be a straight-shooter.
Listen to your own heart, and that will tell you what you need to do to win hers.
Morriss Partee is wooing a TwitterQueen, so far successfully to date, and will be leading a session on this subject at TwitterQueens NYC on 6.27.09.
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June 2, 2009 at 10:58 pm
john elder robison
How do you think TwitterQueens differ from regular girls?
June 3, 2009 at 1:40 am
Morriss Partee
Hi John!
Wow, what an excellent question! I am going to have to ponder on that one. For future entries on this blog, I am going to write about how to tell if your TwitterQueen or potential TwitterQueen is worthy of your adoration. Thanks for the question.
If any TwitterQueens reading this blog want to comment about what sets themselves apart from other girls, please feel free!
June 3, 2009 at 2:16 am
Lesley Lambert
Well, I suppose as the TwitterQueen mentioned I best have something to say….so here it is:
Morriss is sooo right. People need to make room in their lives for what they want. Let go of what doesn’t work, release what is old and create space for dreams/plans/visions to find you.
A caution: this is scary stuff. Nothing easy about it….releasing the safe but stagnant or creating room for the imaginary is tough, but it WORKS.
Morriss….keep up the good work
June 4, 2009 at 10:57 pm
john elder robison
Well, you still have not answered the question of how Twitterqueens may differ from other females, if indeed they differ at all.
If I may offer one suggestion . . . the Twitterqueen wooinig may be a more public thing, and that may change the dynamic. Do you think that’s true?
Also . . . high school students have announced their relationship changes on FB and MS for some time. But older people are just beginning to do that. Why would you do so, as a 40-year-old with kids? Are you in the same place as a high school senior in that regard? Is it different or the same?
One more thing . . . Twitterqueens are part of a community. Is the community involved in any way in dating/mating decisions? How do you feel about that?
Woof!
June 9, 2009 at 2:33 pm
Morriss Partee
Indeed, I haven’t answered that question, and I haven’t done so for a few reasons. One reason is that what it is and means to be a TwitterQueen has not been defined. There’s a vague notion of it if you visit the TwitterQueens site, and there is an origination story. I attempted to define it on my Facebook page, but some disagreements ensued, so I retracted my first draft of a Royal Proclamation so that the TQ founders could come out with their own version.
But there is another reason why I’m not directly answering this question, and that is: It’s the wrong question to ask as far as I’m concerned. Part of wooing a TwitterQueen is to find out what is absolutely unique about her as an individual, never mind how she compares to other TwitterQueens or women in general. People in general want to be valued as unique individuals even as they describe themselves through affiliation in a number of different communities.
You also bring up a great point about the community aspect of TwitterQueen-dom, and community decisions. In a very real way, one’s Facebook status is the new social/community focal point for relationships. While still important in many ways, the piece of paper filed away in the town or city hall regarding marriages, births, divorces, and deaths, is all of a sudden somewhat out-dated now that we have real-time information regarding these events. The implications, pros and cons, of this new reality is worthy of a blog post in its own right.
In a certain sense, the online community aspect of dating, courtship, and relationships hasn’t changed… it’s just become more apparent. One should always behave well when courting, because it’s in full view of the community. Of course, it was always in full of the community (especially her network of friends), but in the online world, the community is now more fully in view of the participants.
June 12, 2009 at 5:32 pm
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