This post is inspired by my friend, John Robison’s, comment on my previous post. He asked what sets apart TwitterQueens from other women. While that is a great question, it can’t be answered yet, because the exact concept of TwitterQueen-dom has yet to be defined. To be sure, there is a general notion of a TwitterQueen, a vibe which exists in the TQ community already.

Grouping and classifying people is human nature. Our world is nearly infinitely complex, and our brains, as magnificent as they are, only have a finite amount of computational capability. (Some say we can only really keep track of 150 people at a time.) So in order to survive, in order to navigate in the world, we find it useful and necessary to group places, things, and people, into neat, tidy little compartments.

But in order to successfully woo a TwitterQueen, or any other woman for that matter, we must ask a different question. Instead of asking about the characteristics of the group as whole, the more important question is how is she unique as an individual. Yes, the groups that she affiliates herself with are extremely important to her identity. But no one likes to be see as a generic piece of a larger pie. Men and women like to be valued for who they are; what makes them unique and special as human beings.

So to put this into practice in terms of wooing your TwitterQueen: Try to pay attention to the details of her. Find out what her favorite things are; her favorite hobbies, activities, food, music, movies, styles. Are any of these things out of the ordinary? If so, try to show her that you appreciate this uniqueness in her by mirroring it back to her in some fashion. For example, if she is passionate about photography, ask her out on a date which includes seeing an opening at a photograph gallery, or buy her a framed print from a photographer she admires. If she likes country music, ask her out on a date to see a country band play live.

If you are currently in a relationship, what have you done to honor your partner’s uniqueness lately? Share your stories here! Let us know if doing something like this has made your partner happy!

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Morriss will be leading a Twitter 101 session at the TQNYC Social Media Bootcamp on June 27, 2009.